Bride is read the riot act

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    I saw that and had to laugh.

    I warmed to the mum too.
     
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    I tend to agree with you. A model of restraint. Note the absence of the word 'chav' in her email.

    If I were the MIL, I would only offer to match the funds which the future ILs are putting in. Then see if the would-be DIL still wants to get married.
     
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    Ha ha, the "Rules" make the bride appear a right self centered piece of....

    She's going to regret sending that round to her mates... :D
     
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    Personally , i can't see anything wrong with the rules that are quoted ?

    "When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

    "When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat.

    "You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else."

    Or am i just out of touch ?

    P.S. Why does the Daily Wail have to quote what everyones house is worth in their articles ?
     
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    No Idea.

    Finisterre 51 (middling house £450k)
     
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    Ha Ha !!

    Toad Hall is worth a lot more than that !! ;)
     
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    Howard is 53?!!!!!!





















    :D:D
     
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    Is it because Brits are obsessed with property prices and more importantly it's weirdly intresting ?(well i find it intresting-ish):eek:
     
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    Whilst the rules themselves may be reasonable, I don't think that any parent should speak to their sons future bride in that way.

    Perhaps both should go to finishing school together.
     
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    ...and certainly not by email. One should write a letter. In fact she complained about not receiving thank you letters after the girl's stay.
     
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    here's the whole letter for people who haven't read it yet... i must admit i agree with alot of the rules, it's simple manners!


    It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.

    I am being kept awake - or woken early - by Edward [Freddie's father] who is so profoundly upset by your behaviour on your recent visit that he is depressed and anxious.

    Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you. It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so. Your behaviour on your visit to Devon during April was staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace. Unfortunately, this was not the first example of bad manners I have experienced from you. If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste. There are plenty of finishing schools around. You would be an ideal candidate for the Ladette to Lady television series. Please, for your own good, for Freddie's sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible.

    Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

    When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

    You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

    You do not start before everyone else.

    You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

    When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

    You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

    I have no idea whether you wrote to thank [your future sister-in-law] for the weekend but you should have hand-written a card to her.

    You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed at Houndspool.

    [Your future sister-in-law] has quite the most exquisite manners of anyone I have ever come across. You would do well to follow her example.

    You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.

    It is tragic that you have diabetes. However, you aren't the only young person in the world who is a diabetic. I know quite a few young people who have this condition, one of whom is getting married in June. I have never heard her discuss her condition. She quietly gets on with it. She doesn't like being diabetic. Who would? You do not need to regale everyone with the details of your condition or use it as an excuse to draw attention to yourself. It is vulgar.

    As a diabetic of long standing you must be acutely aware of the need to prepare yourself for extraordinary eventualities, the walk to Mothecombe beach being an example. You are experienced enough to have prepared yourself appropriately.

    No-one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

    I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

    One could be accused of thinking that Carolyn must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.
     
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    What is this? The 1920s?
    Most of the 'rules' just seem like good manners, it's the control freak of a step-mother that's writing them that is coming across as a stuck up snob...
     
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    I think primate anthropologists would describe this as dominance display by an alpha female. Manners are almost certainly not the point at issue.

    I have met many people of quite exquisite manners over the years and I am 100% certain not one would pen an email on this subject.
     
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    There are two sides to every story and I'm afraid that to me, the prospective MIL comes across as a nasty controlling cow. The email is in itself the very essence of bad manners. I like manners, they cost nothing. I have to agree with Sweetpea and Charles that this has little to do with manners and everything to do with control. If I were Freddie and Miss Withers I'd want to be as far as possible from 'mummy'!
     
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    I like the the part where she say's Freddi's father can't sleep,lol
    I he can't sleep everyone knows why appart from his mother who tries to blame others
     
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    Perhaps that's why she is on marriage No.3:D The last 2 sussed this out and gave her the heave ho.:bannana:
     
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