Red C220
MB Enthusiast
Message me if you want a chat. It's a difficult thing for people to understand if they haven't experienced it. Ultimately though you eventually reach a point where you decide it's time to cut off from it, for your own health and sanity.I think it was the way you asked your question with a lot of assumption and accusation kind of tones “So your wife doesn’t know what day of the week it is and you’re on hook-up sites chasing skirt??”
I can understand someone thinking that way without knowing the full details, but at the same time I’ve faced a very similar situation recently and it’s like the person you once knew is totally gone no matter what you do to try and help. It’s takes a huge toll on your life and wellbeing and at some point you have to look to move forward. It’s a situation that will forever be in your mind until your dying day and is excruciatingly hard to deal with. Red is fortunate that he is able to see light at the end of the tunnel. I’m not there yet. Reading what he said stunned me by some of the similarities. Let’s all just be kind and understanding to one another. It takes a lot to share something so personal.
What you've explained above about the person you once knew being gone is absolutely true, you're now just dealing with a shell.
I always struggled when she was confused, distressed and upset. Once this morphed to rage, anger and outright hate it actually become easier to deal with (mentally).