It's possible that your phone isn't compatible? You don't give details of your car either, which may make a difference, as there are two different systems used in Mercs. I know very little about these things, but these details will help those who know more. Model and year? I do appreciate that you have probably checked these things.
However in the manual (Copy below) the instructions for Audio 20, starting at #17 don't make it clear on which button on the wheel you need to press to 'confirm'. Have you tried pressing the + button on the wheel to 'confirm'? (Just an idea, a shot in the dark).
http://www.mercupgrades.com/manuals/cradles/SAP-manual.pdf
P.S. Hello and welcome.
Thanks Grumpy!
yes, I've wondered about compatibility but have seen (can't remember where now) someone report that the phone is compatible. The car is b class 57 plate and I'm told that the cradle should work no problem (phone compatibility issues aside).
I think my phone needs remote sim access or remote sim access profile, but i can't find out whether it has. this website seems to suggest that it shouldn't be a problem:
Compatibility
Yes, I have tried all buttons on both the unit and steering wheel, but the only one that seems to confirm is the call button. But I do find that strange in itself, because when I press it once the pin has been entered, it states "dialling" and then I get the decending tone (which according to the cradle manual means that pairing has failed).
Thanks for your help.