I get the "I pay your wages" thrown at me sometimes. Seeing as I also pay my own wages it becomes a complex area for discussion
I don't mean this in the sense that you must do as I say & everything I say or do is correct. Rather, in the sense that the Police are public servants doing a job, a job I couldn't & wouldn't do. For the most part I support them. I am a citizen of good repute & a reasonable man. I treat them with respect & courtesy AND I EXPECT TO BE TREATED IN THE SAME MANNER.
In my very limited dealings with them I have found this approach works well. I have also told a couple of them off for OTT or highhanded behaviour and to their credit they have reconsidered their approach and amended it.
From the reaction of her colleague & the circumstances it sounds like this young lady cop was going on a bit of a uniform incited power rush. I suggested contacting her supervisor in the hope that he /she would have a quiet word & defuse this apparently unecessarily escalated situation.