My E46 BMW touring came with sports suspension and 18" wheels, and over the winter I swapped them out for 16" rims. The improvement to the ride was so good when changed, I'm keeping them on permanently. The 16's and sports suspension has proved to be an ideal combination of ride, damping and handling.
Perhaps give this a try? The brake caliper issue mentioned above should be noted though.
I think manufacturers have gone too far with their suspension and wheel combinations- or the manufacturers marketing teams to be more precise....