Wedding present advice please

[Bobby Dazzler]

My favourite wedding gift was a pair of garden chairs with adjustable backrest from B&Q. They have a silver frame and a blue woven fabric pulled taught across the frame for the seat base and back rest, and came complete with a foot stool in the same style. They have lived outside for 22 years and an occasional jet wash is all they need to look as good as new. I suggest you get down to B&Q first thing and see whether they still have them

Mrs D’s suggestion isn’t as good but worth considering. She said a rose with a name which might be significant to them in some way. Girls, eh? Get them the chairs from B&Q.

 

[Bobby Dazzler]

You don't know MY idea of classy

Ahhhh you went to the same sort of places as me then?

 

[Harrythedog]

Winter tyres are very en vogue this time of year, just saying

 

[MSG2004]

I should have been clearer. My mate is Thai/Indian (Sikh). They live in Bangkok. Are we talking a similar culture? Yes, we could give money as I know many will but I'd like to give them something that's says "dad's mate from England".

I appreciate what you're saying about the cupboard or the bin! This is the right role in dancing on (badly!)

Yes, similar culture - born in the UK.
It's hard to say what would do the trick and cost less then 5k min IMO
I'm not into gifts but Mrs is and she suggests a very smart young man may like and his
parents will be proud to show off an Indian suit for the guy. At weddings, I've noted some young guys who get dressed in those
and a pair of shoes to go with it. IMO, 1k could easily do the trick - alternatively, if the young man does wear jewellery consider a platinum bracket costing about 1.5 k

May I ask what's your max spend? Btw - be aware if/when close members of your family get wed, they will expect at least, if not more than what you get your mate's son,

 

[Gollom]

Sponsorship of an impressive animal in London Zoo?

 

[Bobby Dazzler]

Sponsorship of an impressive animal in London Zoo?

Excellent call.

 

[mattc]

Sponsorship of an impressive animal in London Zoo?

Oh I like that

 

[mattc]

Yes, similar culture - born in the UK.
It's hard to say what would do the trick and cost less then 5k min IMO
I'm not into gifts but Mrs is and she suggests a very smart young man may like and his
parents will be proud to show off an Indian suit for the guy. At weddings, I've noted some young guys who get dressed in those
and a pair of shoes to go with it. IMO, 1k could easily do the trick - alternatively, if the young man does wear jewellery consider a platinum bracket costing about 1.5 k

May I ask what's your max spend? Btw - be aware if/when close members of your family get wed, they will expect at least, if not more than what you get your mate's son,

Ok, a bit more detail about the wedding. Upon arrival we will be met at the airport and taken directly for a fitting and have Indian clothes made for us in the run up to the main week or so of events (we are there for about 3 weeks in total). With that in mind I suspect the young man will have plenty of nice clothes to wear ; certainly far nicer than I can afford.

The bracelet is an interesting idea... Would need to get her something too..... But she's about to get a considerable amount of jewellery I'm sure.

With respect to budget I think about £1k which is paltry I know given the wealth of the family.

 

[mattc]

On reflection I may just ask my mate if I should make a donation to a charity I know they help (a couple of schools up country in Thailand) and take a token gift.

 

[ToeKnee]

Hire a mariachi band to follow them around for a day, got to be worth it to see their faces

 

[ChrisHGTV]

I have thought of a painting of London where they met

How about a couple of his and hers nice umbrellas from here. It’s a London institution (for umbrellas). I got my dad a nice one. And there’s the humorous link between London rain and Bangkok rain! Good for sheltering against the sun as well though.
James Smith

 

[mattc]

How about a couple of his and hers nice umbrellas from here. It’s a London institution (for umbrellas). I got my dad a nice one. And there’s the humorous link between London rain and Bangkok rain! Good for sheltering against the sun as well though.
James Smith

Interesting..... Will investigate

 

[Gollom]

Sponsorship of an impressive animal in London Zoo?

Actually it would be a small additional gift as very inexpensive, sponsorship of an animal that most suits their personalities could be good for a giggle. And who does not like a cuddly toy!

P.S. Chester zoo have a wider range

(This has given me a idea for Christmas!)

 

[MSG2004]

With respect to budget I think about £1k which is paltry I know given the wealth of the family.

As I said, we try to stick to the same cash amounts regarding how the other family is related to us. We don't gift based on the other families wealth status.

TBH, myself especially and my siblings to an extent, do not gift more to someone just because they may be super rich.
One of my siblings, runs two well-established businesses. I have never ask and nor will as how much cash they have in the bank/shares etc but
judging by the property they bought in the midlands for close to 3 million last year, I'd say they were relatively rich. They employee about 90+
people from what they have said. I'm aware that they have loans/leases on their lorries, sites etc. I'm saying this just to point out that when my nephew got married, a couple of years ago it was 1k in a card.

Mrs M, her only brother in the UK has one son who got married 3 years ago. The young man was 26 when he got married and his dad via factory work and wise investment in properties in London has 6 properties, all paid off new and his son was given 4 of them on his wedding and the son has his own place costing close to a million in Kent - our gift was 1k.


From what you said, correct me if I'm wrong, but you are setting out to gift a lot more than you would have otherwise would have done if they were not super rich. As I said, we don't do that us siblings try to stick together regarding the value of the gift because not all of my and Mrs M's family is as flush with cash as the other.

Give the boy the jewellery and his wife to be an expensive sari /other Indian dress type.

Enjoy your wedding.

Edit: About "charity" if you gift them cash - they could give your other guests cash to a charity or spend, top up on something - therefore cash is best IMO

 

[SpikyMikey]

Actually it would be a small additional gift as very inexpensive, sponsorship of an animal that most suits their personalities could be good for a giggle. And who does not like a cuddly toy!

P.S. Chester zoo have a wider range

(This has given me a idea for Christmas!)

"Adopt a Pangolin"...

 

[ToeKnee]

"Adopt a Pangolin"...

His and hers, pangolin and a bat!

 

[ChrisHGTV]

Interesting..... Will investigate

There is Fox Umbrellas as well, but personally I think there’s something more special about James Smiths shop.

Fox Umbrellas

 

[mattc]

Thanks for all the input guys. I'll try and speak with my mate later (this can sometimes take days as he's always hither and thither).

I've outlined a number of options in a long message so I'll see what he says/advises and I'll report back

 

[StMarks]

From what you said, correct me if I'm wrong, but you are setting out to gift a lot more than you would have otherwise would have done if they were not super rich.

Fwiw (and also not wishing to misrepresent Mattc's position ) I got a different perspective from reading his posts in this thread.:
As I understood it, he is actually asking for inspired suggestions of gifts that will be truly treasured by someone who could easily afford to purchase it themselves.? My understanding was that the proposed spend that Mattc outlined was actually more likely linked to the considerable outlay that was being invested in him as an honoured guest.??

 

[MSG2004]

Fwiw (and also not wishing to misrepresent Mattc's position ) I got a different perspective from reading his posts in this thread.:
As I understood it, he is actually asking for inspired suggestions of gifts that will be truly treasured by someone who could easily afford to purchase it themselves.? My understanding was that the proposed spend that Mattc outlined was actually more likely linked to the considerable outlay that was being invested in him as an honoured guest.??

Many thanks for that and it is how I initially saw it as well. However, the quote you posted from me was me responding to the word "paltry" as used by Matcc in reference to the amounts I mentioned. This resulted in me posting that we did not give gifts based on the other person's financial status .